By Amanda Mitchell, LCPC, BC-DMT
“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out, and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” – Cynthia Occelli.
I was speaking with another therapist when she reminded me of this quote. Cynthia Occelli is an author and speaker with a mission “to help women create loving, laughter-filled, abundant lives (men benefit from happy women).” It struck me how much this quote resonates with what I needed to hear at my current growth and expansion stage, even though my friend shared it with me for other reasons.
Often, we draw to ourselves and receive the very things we seek. We need to be mindful of how much time we spend on seeking and being with our doubts and despair versus our passions, ambitions, and the things that magnify our most fabulous Self. In this, we’ll always have room to grow.
I find that at every new life change, every new loss, every new goal, every new growth, and every new opportunity, we come a little bit (or a lot) undone. It is uncomfortable. It is unknown and unfamiliar. It is often frightening, even when there is a sense of excitement or only acceptance for what is new or different. A new or different circumstance usually requires something new or different within us to feel whole and in alignment – body, mind, and spirit.
I share Cynthia Occelli’s quote to pay it forward. To remind us all that when it feels like we are standing in complete destruction and turning inside out, we are quite possibly on the verge of greatness!
Be in it. Be with it. Be with yourself. Breathe. Allow the seed that you are planting to come undone, reveal itself and its worthiness to you, and share its beauty.
What seeds are you planting?
What grows within you?
What is tearing you apart?
What part of you seeks to achieve its most significant expression?
Updated and reposted from 2018.
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