By Amy Goldbeck, R-DMT, LPC, CHt
Sometimes I can get overwhelmed with the many simultaneous projects or tasks that are occurring. I have an impulse to finish and check it off the list. If I have a question, I want it answered. When I have the answer, it feels satisfying. Sometimes I just want to talk out loud about all the things I have to do, but instead, it just bounces around inside.
I also wish there was a channel for each project and task, so I could focus and go in a straight line rather than be pulled in every direction. The variety is overwhelming. The choice is filled with pressure. It’s hard to remember all of the things. It’s difficult to manage, even with lists.
I wonder if anyone else feels this way? One thing that helps me is to remind myself that it’s okay to be mid-process with each thing. I only have to move along or focus on any one task in this moment. I can be inside the process and be doing just fine. It doesn’t mean I’m failing! I’m moving along! It helps me to reframe, that I am doing the steps and tackling the tasks. “I am” rather than “I’m not yet.”
I can also be mindful of what I tend to tackle first versus last. I can pay attention to the thoughts popping up and choose to modify them, if necessary. I can take a break, stretch, walk, create something, and come back. I can constantly be reflecting, noticing what it is like to be in process mode. After all, life itself is a process and the goal is not to die. Right?! So, I can slow down, and take time to enjoy the small task I choose for myself today. I can do it well, notice and learn, playfully approach it differently… I can be with myself along the way.
I remind myself that the end point isn’t the goal. Moving along is the goal. Learning and enjoying are great goals to have as I move along too! Sometimes we need reminders that we are doing fine! Thumbs up! You don’t have to be first to finish. Just take a breath and know that for now, you are right where you need to be. Trust that all the things will get done. Maybe you’ll find that only when you slow down, can you move through. Take time to be with yourself, to be kind to yourself as you move along at a gentle pace.
Looking for more tips on how to be gentle with yourself and still move forward with your goals? Reach out to Amy today.